Violent DJ

This episode happened on a day back in April of this year (2020) we just woke up and started arguing. My abuser was my then boyfriend who works as a DJ and producer and also owner of a record label based here in Buenos Aires. At some point in the argument he grabbed my arms, lifted me up in the air and threw me headfirst to the ground. I hit my head (3 days with migraine), while he was doing this and throughout the fight, he would yell at me “I AM NOT VIOLENT, I AM NOT A SHIT, I AM NOT VIOLENT, I AM NOT A SHIT” in a loop and non-stop the entire time I was lying on the floor (I never said violent or shit to him, and in fact I am not to yell or insult in discussions). When I was crying and asking him to please let me go so I could check my injury and wet my head in the bathroom, telling him that it hurt a lot, CRYING, he got on top of me and grabbed my neck with both hands and then grabbed my feet as if he was going to drag me, releasing them hard by hitting them against the wall. After this and still screaming the same thing, he grabbed me by the leg and wrist, lifted me in the air and threw me on the bed where he climbed on top of me immobilizing my legs with his and grabbing me by both wrists while putting his face in front of mine yelling “YOU MAKE ME HATE YOU. DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT I AM NOT VIOLENT? DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT I AM NOT? DO YOU UNDERSTAND?” As he pushed and held me against the bed. I said yes, I understand, I was still crying so he told me “don’t look at me with that horrified face” and it got worse. He kept yelling the same thing at me.

After having me immobilized me like that and yelling at me like that, I finally asked him to please let me go because I was scared and my head hurt a lot and I wanted to go to the bathroom to wet it. I tried to calm down and answer him that yes, I understood that he was not violent. He let go of me and kept kicking and hitting things and yelling all over the house. I wet my head and wanted to go out. He wouldn’t let me, he tore my cell phone out of my hand and threw it on the bed, he wouldn’t let me go, he told me I wasn’t going anywhere. That he was leaving. I asked him to please let me go, I was just going for a bike ride. That I needed air. He wouldn’t let me pass, he grabbed me, pushed me, put his body in front of me, he wanted to hug me (??) Finally I decided to hug him, shaking and crying so that he would let me leave my house and he eventually let me pass reluctantly pushing me. I took out my bike and cycled away and didn’t come back. He called me all day but i didn’t answer, at night he started calling my friends saying that if they knew anything about me because “I had gone crazy and I told him I was going for a ride and didn’t come back” He sent me messages saying “You can’t have me like this, I’m worried, you can’t leave and leave me like this without knowing anything about you. ” When I replied that he had screwed my head, he began to say that I put him like that, that I brought out the worst in him and things like that. In an audio message he even told me that this was an “accident” that could be repeated or worse. I asked him to leave and the following messages ranged from “no one is going to love you like me, you’re going to miss me” to “you’re a fucking psychopath you just want to make me suffer.” I’m just going to say that this was the last and worst violence I received from him. That this grew until it reached what I am telling today.

I have all the conversations since we started dating. I have all the necessary proofs of what I am saying. I have publicly shared his name and the evidence. I just don’t want to make a morbid post but more of a warning so that the next girl isn’t attacked or worse.

I also have a restraining order of 300 meters and an anti-panic button that was given to me on the spot when I made the complaint due to it’s seriousness and later, the restriction order was raised to 600 meters by order of the judge. But it is all us victims get in our country. The violent abusers remain free.

The events that I related to above occurred in my own home, the home I allowed him in to, paid all the bills so he could focus and dedicate fully to his music on and on that same day I separated from him.

There was no reason for this argument and subsequent assault, we just got up and he started arguing and it all ended that way. From that day until now he is still free and slandering me on his networks.