I’m from Buenos Aires, Argentina. I worked for a time at one of the most popular night clubs, it was here I met the sound engineer and resident DJ of the club. I began to receive all kinds of harassment from him on social media, inviting me to have sex with his girlfriend, to which I replied that I did NOT want to.
One day at an after party, where he was with his girlfriend too, he began telling me that he wanted to have sex with me and her, again, insisting, when I had already told him that I did not want to. In front of many people who were there, he began to touch my legs and put his hand inside my skirt, telling me that “I was pretty”, “beautiful”, “sexy”. I sneakily pulled out his hand because I was ashamed of the situation that was happening. At one point I went to the bathroom, because I did not feel well, and taking advantage of my state, he came in behind me, cornered me, and began to tell me that “he wanted to fuck me” “please” that “he was going to call his girlfriend to come and have a threesome.” I told him “NO”, I always said NO, “please let me out.” He put his hands inside my skirt and inside my shirt. I didn’t know how to react at that moment and I don’t know how, but I managed to get rid of his hands and ran away and left the after party.
Two days later, he spoke to me with an excuse, as if nothing had happened, no matter how I felt about what happened. To which I made it clear that if he took advantage of my condition again, I was going to report him. He apologized and told me that something like this had never happened to him, that he was very high, and that he would never do it again. I blamed myself for a whole year, for having worn a skirt, or for being alone at a party, or for being drunk. But then I found out about other girls who had been abused by this person too, and I started contacting them to get this out. When he found out that I was going to make my experience public, I began to receive all kinds of threats from him and his girlfriend, ands also victimizing himself and telling me that his son was sick and hospitalized, all this so that I would not tell the experience that I had with him.
When I finally decided to tell my story publicly on Facebook, many girls were also encouraged to tell similar situations that they too had with this person, and with other DJs and producers of the techno scene in Argentina.
The worst of all was that the club staff knew what kind of person he was and did nothing, they decided to cover it up. People who worked with the owner went to tell him about the situation of that I experienced by my abuser, but he decided to continue working with him even though he already knew that my abuser had a restraining order issued by his previous partner. Only when all the accusations were made public did they decide to remove this person from the club.